The Just Be Revolution — Life With The Squidlet

Life With The Squidlet - Transitions

Life With The Squidlet

Life With The Squidlet - Transitions

I remember year 10 – it was 1990, a whole other century ago, and it might well have been given where we have progressed to since then.  I saw something by Michael Caton the other day, where he said that when he graduated high school he didn’t even know of the existence of homosexuality, let alone its meaning.  Thinking back, I was probably similarly ignorant – the world had progressed, for sure, but the community and acceptance that exists these days is so wonderfully advanced, that for people like my son, connecting with support and a community has relegated so...

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Life With The Squidlet - Rites and Responsibilities

Life With The Squidlet

Life With The Squidlet - Rites and Responsibilities

When I was a teacher, boys’ education was a big focus of mine.  Spurred by an incredible day of learning with Steve Biddulph, and gaps in my own learning about what it meant to be a male in my own upbringing, I sought to try and be a positive influence for a lot of the young men that came through my classroom.  Sometimes this resulted in advice, sometimes a sympathetic ear, sometimes tears.  Like so much of teaching, you just never knew where things were going to go, but I would like to think that for a lot of those...

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Life With The Squidlet - Badges

Life With The Squidlet

Life With The Squidlet - Badges

Names are interesting, aren’t they … have you ever wanted to change yours? I wanted to change mine to Gordon when I was a teenager, it was my pop’s name, my great-grandfather.  Nobody knew of the name Shannon back then and so it was always Shane, or Sharon … not fun … So yes, I considered it.  When I was teaching, I used to love the kids that were international students who decided to choose an Anglo name when they arrived here, just for convenience.  They were always such formal names, so stern and mature, it used to crack me...

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Life With The Squidlet - The Questions You Ask Yourself

Life With The Squidlet

Life With The Squidlet - The Questions You Ask Yourself

One of the things you don’t understand at the beginning with the announcement that your kid is transgender, is just how many questions are going to come up.  Trust me, it’s a lot. I’m sure in your own head even now you’ve had a few of the key ones flash across your own empathetic minds, the biggest one of course is, “just how much do you want to transition?”  But there are so many more that you never realise.  Some of them are easy, like, “what do you want to be called?”  Others are a bit trickier to answer, such...

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Life With The Squidlet - The Things You Never Think About...

Life With The Squidlet

Life With The Squidlet - The Things You Never Think About...

I would hazard to guess that you never quite understand how many ways you must learn new things before you decide to live life as a different gender.  I’ve now seen Squidlet wear a belt for the very first time as he has switched over to wearing his school’s boys uniform.  This also involved me having to help with the tying of a tie – it’s good to know that I still have a use in his teenage world!  My memories of my own fumbles with an emerging identity at the age of 15 or 16 are tumultuous in themselves...

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