"Comparison is the thief of joy.” Lets think about this concept for a second. How much of the success we have in our life is measured by comparing it to what others have achieved? The same can be said of how we perceive physical beauty. How much of what you class as “beautiful" is measured against what we are told by the media is beautiful? Do we all need to stop being so hard on ourselves?
When I was a little girl I always wanted to look like someone else! ALWAYS! I was constantly comparing myself to a body shape and face that just was not achievable for myself. I never looked at myself in the mirror and felt content. I hadn’t learnt to embrace all of the little things about me that I have learnt to love today. I was so hard on myself. I would starve and binge around and around in circles hoping that miraculously one day I would wake up looking like Britney Spears. I had no concept of photoshop or airbrushing because at that time it wasn’t something that was widely talked about. I assumed the images I saw on TV and in magazines were real people. How did they have such flawless skin, perfect hair, toned abs? Why didn’t I look like that? It was so damaging for me because I grew up with a very low opinion of myself.
I remember sitting in my lounge room with one of my best friends about 5 years ago. We were having a few drinks and flicking through magazines which was a pretty standard Friday night for us. I recall seeing a picture of Miranda Kerr in a magazine and saying “Argh! Why can’t I look like Miranda Kerr?” which is a ridiculous thing to say, I am aware! I am 5”4 and I have a completely different build and heritage to her. My best friends response was simple and has always stuck with me: “It is her job to look like Miranda Kerr.”. So true! Miranda Kerr’s job is to be Miranda Kerr. She has people to tell her what to eat, when to eat, what exercise to do, when to wake up, she has hair and makeup people and a stylist plus photoshop even when she probably doesn’t need it! That is her job. Just like it is The Rock’s job to be The Rock. We are comparing ourselves to people that are literally professionally good looking! Its nuts and all it does is make us feel miserable about ourselves in comparison.
I know its tacky but when i wake up in the morning I look at myself in the mirror and remind myself that I am more than the face staring back at me. My looks will fade and its much more important to have substance and like the person that you are.
Kimi is a Makeup Artist of 13 years and started a beauty YouTube channel 18 months ago because she was passionate about helping people with their makeup struggles. In her blog series "That's What She Said", Kimi will be exploring the world of beauty and talking to people about all aspects of the beauty community in order to remove stigma and dispel myths about the industry in a 100 per cent positive way.